A Lady’s Accomplishment: Outdated or Reimagined
By Guest Blogger Aimee Cook
You have read it in almost every Jane Austen
or Charlotte Bronte novel. You have even
heard it in all those amazing cinema remakes.
That sometimes dreaded, sometimes eager to answer question of “Is she
accomplished?” The timid smile of “yes”,
the perhaps shamed downward look of “no”, or the defiant non-answer. But what does it truly mean to be an
accomplished woman of the 19th century?
What does it mean to be an accomplished woman of any century? To many, it is an outdated notion, but to
others it has been re-altered and re-designed into the 21st century woman.
Let us start with the most common association
with the word "accomplished."
Long used by often overbearing mothers of the 18th and 19th century
towards their always dutiful daughters, being accomplished goes beyond basic
literacy skills. It describes a young
woman who is not only well educated, but well-rounded. For one to view a list of the required areas
a young lady from the 1800’s should be fluent in is quite astounding, even with
today’s standards. Amongst a cheery
disposition, there are ten specific areas to be mastered in order to be
accomplished, all ideally before marriage.
The foundation lies within a solid education.
And it is from this basis of learning
that all areas of the more “lighter” accomplishments rest. While an education of this era may not
reflect the value modern society place on the liberal arts, a 19th century
tutor would be sure their pupil had a working knowledge of classic literature,
world history, and a few other social sciences.
Yesterday or today, the foundation of a mind lies in knowledge and the
voracious desire to constantly build that base.
With the above mentioned literature comes the
second area of accomplishment: to be well-read.
From classics to more modern novels, a lady who reads is a lady worth
engaging in conversation. Much as today,
we value individuals who are not only well-read, but well-informed on world
events. Reading is a gateway for the
mind, transporting it to exotic, unknown, or imagined places. Such knowledge fuels one’s creativity and
provides for stimulating conversation, the third area, with peers. Area number four? Reading those previously mentioned classics
out loud. Yes, a strong reading voice
was viewed as a real talent.
The romance languages of French, Italian, and
even German were further marks of an educated, 19th century female. For those wealthy enough to travel, being
conversationally sound was a necessity when one was left only a small paper
dictionary from which to pull those much-needed phrases. Perhaps this skill has been lost on many of
us, yet being viewed as bilingual or even trilingual evokes admiration from
all.
Having now discussed the “academic” areas of
accomplishments, the next four dabble in those more artistic fields of music,
dancing, drawing, and what is described as “fancy sewing.”
Playing the pianoforte, the harp, or even the
violin were all musts for genteel, young ladies. With daily practice encouraged, women would
dutifully, and perhaps, in some cases, begrudgingly, do their best to navigate
those tricky arrangements of Bach or Mozart.
This, perhaps, is where one begins to view the cookie-cutter approach to
accomplishments as flawed. Must a person
play only one type of instrument? Must
they be forced to play an instrument at all?
Perhaps if any of you experienced those mandated lessons that were lost
upon you and tainted your appreciation of music, you will understand the dilemma. Others of you may crave that crisp parchment
printed with the magical language from which music emerges. Perhaps it is better to foster an
appreciation for music, which allows those to admire the talented and perhaps,
be admired in return.
Drawing and sewing were not only signs of
femininity, they were areas that demanded mastery. These two, unlike the previous areas, could
be a source of constant frustration.
While many say that anyone can draw or even sew for that matter, these
skills, in many ways, do rely on natural traits. Perhaps this may be coming from a more
personal viewpoint where sewing skills dramatically outweigh the sad
stick-figure designs, but struggling in these areas should not deter one from
being viewed as “accomplished.” But what
can these two areas portray about the characteristics of a 19th century
female? The answer is quite simple:
perseverance and dedication. Requiring
oneself to complete a complicated project, whether it be embroidery or, perhaps
in today’s world, completing a level of higher education, shows a woman with
passion and determination.
Dancing, however, was the one area with which
there were to be no if’s, and's, or but's.
All proper ladies must know how to dance. From the waltz, to quadrilles, to the polka
and even other lesser-known dances such as the Schottische and the Varsovienne,
were vital to a lady’s social acceptance.
Long hailed by doctors as wonderful forms of exercise and amusements,
dancing was the accomplished woman in action.
She was to be admired for her stamina, her grace and style, and her
ability to have fun. Go to any wedding
today and you may see that the great-granddaughters of these women still know
how to party!
The last area is in many ways, the most
important, the most timeless, and the most misunderstood...a woman’s
appearance. This area, like it or not, is that thing which drives her
life. It either leads her down a path of
never found fountains-of-youth, of feigned indifference, or of well-earned
peace. Appearance is multi-layered and
should be viewed as such. A woman’s
worth should not be weighed only by her outward appearance while her
personality is perhaps scarred and vice versa.
Presenting the best of yourself, through your personality, outfit
choice, and physical appearance, is the true form of being accomplished. A woman who is confident in herself has found
the key to that magical door of opportunity and peace.
While the term” accomplished woman” and those
specific 19th century areas in which she should specialize, may be an outdated
idea, accomplished women are not. If
anything, women have become more advanced in various fields and areas that
would, and should, make her foremothers very proud. So let us give three cheers for all you
accomplished women! You have truly
earned the title.
Source:
Hartley, Florence. The Ladies’ Book of
Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness. Boston: G.W. Cottrell Publisher. 1860.
Print.
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